A BIG FAT BENGALI WEDDING

Anybody’s life can get changed by just a minute…imagine only one minute before you were just “miss something” and the moment you completed the last phera you are “ mrs something different” as far as our practice is concerned even if we have to keep our maiden surname … it should be in bracket and that’s just the start to series of adjustments. This month only my elder sister got married. Though she is one of my maternal cousin and inspite of the existing age difference we are quite close and more than sister we are very good of friends and took enough pride in telling that she shares with me almost everything. As I was telling about the big fat Bengali wedding and to much of everybody’s surprise it was an arranged one. Quite a rare phenomenon as if in the existing scenario of our society of the cultured enough civilized and liberal middle class Bengali families.. though somethings never change girl’s side always have to be on the attention please part and extra alert to see whether each and everyone from the groom’s side including him is properly been fed or not and whether every arrangement suits their temperament … actually its our humility that we welcome our guests as god with no compromises in. the hospitability but even a single fault on the girl’s side part can raise issues which may further dealt with harsh criticisms and enough serious topic of discussions among the close relatives and in laws . relatives who apart from giving grades on the food’s quality, or the decoration of the mandap, or the bride’s makeup has one minor thing to do to bless the couple or shower them with wishes.. but they have already denoted their enough quality time in deciding what to gift the bride coz maybe the bride’s mother was generous enough to gift their daughter with the costly lao parla dinner set so their gift should be upto the mark to keep their face …or just one envelope with some green Gandhi faced notes or one big pink Gandhi imprinted note would do and with a one rupee coin extra shagun…. So see everybody has so much to do then to just attend a healthy wedding moreover if they were not properly invited , they would rethink many times whether to make it to the wedding just a mail or phone call is just pure insult and how come only postmaster could make it with the wedding card. Well this are just few some ignorable traits of a wedding but what about the important decision which just turned upside down two individual’s life and in case if its an arrange marriage I guess the responsibility is even huge but though on one advantage basis you have always your parents to blame coz they took the decision for you……………………………………